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pofflewomp ([personal profile] pofflewomp) wrote2006-10-11 10:50 pm

Divine injustice

Well, wiggly woggly wombat is just about all I have to say on the matter. Today I was told, "look at you! you're a grown woman but you come across like a little girl!"
Well bloody hell, give me time to catch up on myself for Christ's sake!
I don't feel like a little girl or a grown woman, more like a cross between a tree fairy who's eaten too much chocolate and a cowboy in a Western resting by a cactus. Hence the apparent discrepancy between my age and my looks.
It's all very well telling one what one comes across as, but really I don't want to know, have enough to worry about, and if truly how I come across is at the root of my problems with people's cruel perceptions of me surely there needs be a law against looking at me, and a copywrite protection on my persona? Maybe they should just have their eyes plucked out, twats. Brains mushed and legs squished and hair twirled into silly shapes.
It's not my fault I look younger than my years - it's all that silicon in all that lager I drank. And as for how I act, well what's more annoying than people who ponce about acting all grown up as if they know what's what in the world? Fishfinger cunts.
Anyway, of course one comes across as a little girl on one's first encounter with a new therapist. D'uh.
Only it turns out this therapy is about being grown up and taking responsibility - ugh. Not something I'm a stranger to at all, simply something I'm on stike from for the moment.
More to the point, I went because I have a problem with people's perceptions of me, more precisely with people's bad and cruel comments. Which may very well quite likely indeed be a result of how I come across to people, but as different people react differently to different ways of coming across, and I'm tired and just want a quick fix so refuse to work out different personas for different people, balls to that.
I refuse to allow therapy to overrule moral rectitude, defined as the fact that I am right and that people shouldn't say bad and cruel things no matter what. So there.
Now this was meant to bring me to the topic of divine justice, but I'm really tired now so it will have to wait. Bye bye x x.

[identity profile] cdaae.livejournal.com 2006-10-11 11:25 pm (UTC)(link)
Ahh, but she wasn't a real therapist, she was a NLP person. Also, think of all the money you'll be saving on anti-aging creams.

Pet peeve moment: it's copyright, ie. the right to copy.

I'm reading that divine justice link and pondering it. I disagree with the chappy (and Richard Bach, if he said it too) that "Belief in injustice implies that God is either absent from this world, or not loving enough, or not powerful enough". Hello, look at the world, it's full of injustice. I think it implies that God, whatever God may be, simply has a completely different value system than humans incarnate on the earth have.

Some people who write about spiritual development have a definite "holier than thou" thing going on. Actually the people who are easily hurt might not have such a long way to go in their spiritual development - maybe they're just going to go a lot faster because they've had so many awful things happen which have caused them to be easily hurt, that by the end of their lives they'll have developed vastly more than someone who hasn't been through loads of shit. Who's to say that learning when it's fair and right to blame others - ie. expect others to take responsibility for their actions - is less "spiritually developed" than just forgiving everyone and saying everything's okay?

pinches of salt

[identity profile] pofflewomp.livejournal.com 2006-10-11 11:36 pm (UTC)(link)
Good points and indeed so about those who are easily hurt. I was a-fretting about the idea that those who be easily hurt are too thingied within themselves, for that is my worry. I think the Christian idea is that one is supposed to be unhurtable as one's self is at one with the divine. Very confusing. I am regularly tossing big fingerfuls of salt over my left shoulder to keep the devil at bay just in case, as it's all rather confusing.

[identity profile] misfratz.livejournal.com 2006-11-14 01:07 am (UTC)(link)
I've never come across a therapist* who was positive about my personality. Part of the profession seems to be the need to be critical of the people who they meet as 'clients' on the basis that you must have something wrong with you. Don't know, I think it would be more psychologically helpful if they could approach people getting therapy as equals. Suppose then it would be neccessary to look at themself in more detail, which would cause them to become mentally unhealthy. Oh, I am positive today.

Anyway, sorry for commenting on an old post at random. Looking at friends-friends and all that.

*Have to admit to not having voluntarily met that many.

[identity profile] pofflewomp.livejournal.com 2006-12-28 01:29 am (UTC)(link)
I am quite new to therapy and therapists, and that one was appalling, but she was a friend of my dad's and offered her services for free, very kindly, and meant well, but it was Neuro Linguistic Programming and a load of bollocks. It seemed to consist mostly in shoving her assumptions at me and telling me to pull myself together, which was the last thing I needed!